"12" Divorce

This week, we discuss divorce. Divorce is a process that dissolves a legal marriage between two individuals. It is a complicated and often emotionally-charged event that can be difficult for all parties involved. While some couples can amicably navigate the divorce process, others experience significant conflict and stress. There were interesting stats from some studies: 70% of divorces regret divorce in 2 years, 70% of divorced men remarried in 2 years, 70% of people who rate the marriage "very unsatisfactory" change their rating to "satisfactory or "very satisfactory" if they remain in marriage next 5 years.

Many different factors can contribute to the breakdown of a marriage and ultimately lead to divorce. Some of the most common causes of divorce include:

Communication problems: Communication is key to a successful marriage. When couples are unable to effectively communicate with each other, misunderstandings and resentments can build up over time.

Financial problems: Financial stress is a common cause of divorce. When couples are unable to manage their money effectively or when one partner is significantly more financially irresponsible than the other, it can create a significant strain on the marriage.

Incompatibility: Sometimes, couples simply grow apart over time. They may find that they have different goals or interests, or they may realize that they are no longer compatible as romantic partners.

Abuse: When one partner is physically or emotionally abusive, it can create an unsafe and unhealthy environment for both partners and any children involved. In cases of abuse, divorce may be necessary to protect everyone's well-being.

Infidelity: When one partner is unfaithful, it can destroy the trust and intimacy that is necessary for a healthy marriage. But the interesting thing is Infidelity is not the most common reason for divorce. 

Divorce can have significant and long-lasting effects on all parties involved. Children of divorcing parents may experience:

Emotional distress: Children may feel angry, sad, confused, or guilty about their parents' divorce. They may also experience anxiety or depression.

Changes in behavior: Children may exhibit changes in behavior, such as acting out or withdrawing from social activities.

Difficulty in school: Children may struggle academically or have difficulty concentrating in school following their parents' divorce.

Adults who are going through a divorce may also experience a range of emotional and psychological effects, including:

Grief and loss: Divorce is often experienced as a significant loss, and individuals may grieve for the end of their marriage and the life they had imagined for themselves.

Anxiety and depression: Individuals may experience anxiety or depression as they navigate the stress and uncertainty of the divorce process.

Financial stress: Divorce can be expensive, and individuals may experience significant financial stress as they work to untangle their finances from their former spouse's.

Divorce can be an incredibly difficult and painful process, but there are ways to cope with the stress and move forward. Here are some tips for coping with divorce:

Seek support: It is important to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist as you navigate the divorce process. Talking through your emotions and experiences with someone you trust can be incredibly helpful.

Take care of yourself: Make sure to prioritize self-care during this time. This may mean getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.

Be patient: The divorce process can take time, and it is important to be patient with yourself and the process. Try to focus on taking things one day at a time and not getting too caught up in the future.

Focus on the positives: While divorce is a difficult process, it can also be an opportunity for growth and change. Try to focus on the positives and think about how this experience may allow you to create a new life and new perspective.